To be a victim is very hard, and being a victim of rape is many times harder. The peculiarity of this crime is that very often society blames the incident is not a rapist and his victim. Not was, not dressed like that, don’t behave like that… very Few people comes to mind after burglaries to blame the owners that they are somehow «not so» closed up the apartment.
A similar attitude to the victim traumatize her even more, forcing them to remain silent, not to seek justice and not to seek help. But the trauma from rape, are very serious. Women survivors of this nightmare have not coped with it and later have problems in their sexual lives, they rarely make a family more likely to suffer from domestic violence, addictions, and workaholism.
What to do?
To start the adoption of his injury and himself in it with the recognition that you are not to blame. Often even without allegations by a woman trying to analyze what’s wrong, why did this happen to her. It’s a dead end. There was a crime because the rapist has committed a crime. So blame the criminal, not yourself. You just happened to be on his way. Anger, by the way, a good exit from the traumatic situation.
Be sure to write the application in police. Of course, this is a kind of heroic act to go there and tell about what you did at the time, as nothing is healed, either physically or emotionally. Many women do not go to the police, because the Declaration will «talk» again to find it was not the perpetrator of the crime and why the crime happened. Afraid of oblique views, are afraid of publicity, afraid of confrontations. All this is more than understandable, however, many studies in this area show that those rape victims who has achieved justice, brought the case to court and put her abuser, then feel much better.
Enlist the support of someone from family or loved ones. Surely, you have at least one person in whom to confide, to tell, to ask for help, and he(as) will definitely help. Bring in the police on this man. In parallel with this, please seek psychological help. Unfortunately, the trauma caused by rape, very strong, and in most cases cannot be overcome with the help of «kitchen therapy» — intimate conversations with a friend.
Not be amiss to change the situation, at least for a short time. To go to rest, but not in a noisy crowded resort, and in quiet guest house, rest house or sanatorium. Again — definitely not one! One at first, generally, it is best not to stay, so if you have the ability to temporarily move in with relatives or friend — take advantage of this opportunity!