None of us like to quarrel with family and loved ones. But there are times when avoiding conflict is becoming very difficult. So how can you avoid this situation and to settle the argument?
Initially, if you have any desire to answer to their angry opponent, breathe deeply and count to 10. It is this period of time lasts for overcoming emotion. After this you will not have the desire to say anything unless you mean it. Moreover, after this to go to the world will be much more difficult than to quarrel. Remember a simple rule: to avoid the conflict much easier than trying to solve it.
In the case where you are deliberately trying to provoke a conflict, the best option would be, if you abstract and ignore the bully. Such people, as a rule, feed on the energy of others. In psychology they are called «energy vampires». To feel good, they provoke others to conflict and feed on their negative energy, but if they don’t get what the conflict will end sooner than you imagine. Turn on the music player and put on your headphones, close your eyes and imagine that you are in a great location and not pay attention to such a person.
For a speedy end to the conflict try to translate attention from himself to something else. Often the instigator of the conflict makes the opponent the main object of attention: shouts at him, blames everything on what only it is possible, etc. But once you change it the main focus – the conflict has run its course. Ask why he’s so nervous today, maybe something happened or he didn’t get enough sleep? As soon as he realizes that now, and it is the object of attention, will immediately cease to attack you.
Being unpredictable is one of the surest techniques to exit the conflict. During the conflict both parties expect from each other mutual antagonism. Under this scenario, the dispute goes much better. But as soon as someone deviate from their role, will be lost and the whole point of the conflict. Respond with a kind word for evil. Smile if you are rude. If will behave in unpredictable conflict situations, the provocateur will be discouraged.
According to psychologists, plotting conflicts are insecure and insecure people. Such behavior they are trying to hide it. Be merciful to such people and stay away from them.