Child rearing is a complex process, because parents put all their love and all their knowledge, share what I know. One of the important and decisive in the future is the self-esteem. High or low, will bring the child to life many of the problems and misunderstandings from others, an important Golden mean. Many parents intentionally raise the self-esteem of the child, without thinking how he will live on.
What is self-esteem? The answer is contained in the title, self — esteem is the ability of the individual to evaluate himself. Its formation begins from childhood, all the people around contact with the child, drop by drop contribute. With the birth of the child there is no such thing, and it is formed due to adults.
Low self-esteem is formed in those children, in whose address it is possible to hear the constant criticism and bad words, very often they point to neighborhood children. Bad any, even the slightest corporal punishment. With this attitude the child develops fear and self-doubt, if the most important people in the world for him — the parents are dissatisfied with them, then the opinions of others it seems similar. The child forms his opinion of himself, if I offend then I am bad, not worthy of love.
High self-esteem is generated in children who are constantly praised or without him. Any misconduct of a child justified, broke a toy — it is not a quality, received a bad grade the teacher underestimated.
Under such circumstances, the opinion of yourself is too good, the child feels that he can do everything and do it right. In this situation, it is important for parents to understand that in the event of any failure, the child will look for the guilty, even if guilty only to himself.
Build self-esteem and helps society, kindergarten, school. The attitude of teachers and educators is very important, sometimes they are choosing their favorites, hurting other children, hurting their self-esteem. The main place of formation is the same family, even if the school the child was not supported, it needs to find its home.
Try to be the first friends and assistants, if necessary, sit down and talk, explain what child rights are and how we should have done. Examples from the life of yourself or those people that are familiar to the child.
Teach your child to accept criticism with dignity, evaluating its adequacy, this is true for many achievements. It is important that the child looked at all real.