Gratitude is not a feeling which is formed by itself. This feeling should be taught, children need to develop. And if a child never says thank you, and all the care of parents accepts, then it is time to teach the child to thank their parents and to experience this same feeling of gratitude.
Don’t need to be taken to scold the children and read to them sermons, that the mother is not a work-horse that she does everything for them, and in response, can’t hear even a «thank you». You can be absolutely sure that such invocation to the conscience will not be heard by children at all. So, for starters, you need to start with yourself. And so often the mother of the child thanks for the help, though small? If not thanks, then it is time to start to develop a habit. And also to thank wife for what he was, for example, prepared a delicious borscht, teachers at school because they teach children the wisdom of life and scientific knowledge, and even the sales assistant in the store for their help and for their courtesy.
Also need children to teach themselves to help others. It may be that parents help in a nursing home? This is a reason to take the child with him. If there is an elderly and lonely neighbor, then be sure to buy him food and to help clean the apartment, by involving the child. Let him see how important care and how wonderful, when a man is well off, and less pleasant to receive gratitude.
If your child has the books he already read and the toys he does not play, they can ask to be postponed separately for those who don’t mind and take them to the orphanage. And then the child learns to appreciate what he has – a home, toys, books, textbooks, delicious food and good clothes, and it will no longer be taken for granted.
You should pay attention to children’s baby’s room. If he has plenty of toys, and buy him everything he wants, he will not experience joy, but rather, the satisfaction. Therefore, if the child is once again something you want, something you need to discuss with him how he can earn on this or that thing, or what to do in order to get it.
If this thing the child is really needed, having done what he agreed with the parents the child will experience greater joy and gratitude than parents will buy him just so. You should not reward the gifts of the child for success in school or winning the competitions. Much better to say, as parents proud of the child, and that he had them – the best. If you give gifts for every win, then later you can get into debt.
You need to enter a good tradition every day before bedtime to thank all family members for something, albeit minor. Thus, the sense and the ability to give thanks does not appear by itself, it needs to be.