When a person experiences fear, despair or hate, it seems to him that the painful feeling will last forever. Those who find it difficult to survive the difficult times, psychologists recommend to follow the tips below.
Optimism is a matter of practice
Often, people mistakenly believe that it is worth it to find the causes of a difficult situation, to prove the correctness of their actions – and through the tough times will be easier. But all these futile attempts only served to exacerbate the desperation, depression and compassion toward yourself.
A sense of happiness, according to psychologists — not that other, as a habit. In the human brain, not able to extract the positive from all that happens in his life event, is not activated neural pathway responsible for positive perception of the world. This feature of the human body can be expressed more simple terms: everyone can program yourself to have a happy life and good health.
Producing optimistic to the rank of habits is not too difficult. Just need to find and «Deposit» their own memory those insignificant little things (fleeting feelings, smells or sounds), on which, as on a hook, «clings» positive.
As one of the most simple methods «too positive» psychologists advise beginners lucky, once in a given situation, ask yourself: «What can I learn from this experience?» This and similar questions based on the feeling of gratitude to Fate – the easiest and most effective way to change thoughts and get rid of sadness and depression.
Negative experience also has value
Many people fear that an unconditional belief in success will lull their vigilance, make vulnerable and draws you into their lives of misery. According to the American psychotherapist Philippa Perry, the main condition of success – to learn to accept negative events and feelings instead of avoid them. Escape from unpleasant experiences, I am sure, Philip, is tantamount to a forced stop in the heart of the viscous swamps that embodies not lived the experience or voluntary rejection of the possibility to receive an important life lesson.
Through tough times will help prayer
People believers, say psychologists, it is much easier to survive hard times than their non-religious fellow human beings. For Christians one of the ways to cope with their UPS and downs of life is prayer for other people. Wanting others to have happiness, health and good luck, it is easier to understand that his own difficulties are no different from other people’s misfortunes.
Getting into a difficult situation, a person faces a choice: to love, to believe, to accept, to give, to care, to fear, to attack, to manipulate… and so on. The one who chooses love casts out fear and anger. Chosen war deeper and deeper and deeper into the abyss of hatred.