Modern pedagogical science has revealed that parental upbringing plays a major role in the development of the child’s personality and has a great influence on all his subsequent life.
We can distinguish five styles of parenting:
1. Authoritarian – this style characterized by strict discipline, everything is decided by the parents, and the child should do as told. There is no room warmth. Communication is the «parent-child» at the expense of communication «child-parent». From a child waiting for more.
2. Ambivalent – in the style warm a lot of communication between parents with children, a little discipline. Communication is the «parent» at the expense of communication «parent-child». From child don’t expect too much.
3. Custodian – the child’s environment constant concern. The solution of all emerging problems. Constant surveillance of the way he behaves. Anxiety, to him nothing happened
4. Authoritative – in this style there is a middle discipline along with warm relationship. A lot of communication and a legitimate hope for the future of the child. Firmness and consistency and of course justice. The atmosphere of love and emotional support. Independence and personal responsibility is welcome in the ratio with age.
Consider the authoritarian parenting style on the example of a German family, the Müllers, who lived in the early twentieth century. Their son Hans müller was born in 1917 as a child brought up in the strictest discipline. Parents almost never showed his love to the son, they seemed removed from it. This is despite the fact that he was only and long-awaited child. They had high hopes. The family orders were to be discussed, and the failure to execute the will of the parents was severely punished, was used corporal punishment within reason.
Naturally, Hans developed a reflex of a permanent subordination, in order to avoid punishment, he became sleepy. This led to the fact that the child began to show a propensity for violence, he had a lot of conflicts at school, a sign of hostility. He was unsure of himself, he dropped self-esteem.
In 1935 he’s at the insistence of parents joins the Nazi party and the Wehrmacht. To 25 years it is taken in a special division SS «Dead head», which is the guarding of concentration camps. About all the atrocities Hans Mueller can be read in the German archives fell into the hands liberated Auschwitz Soviet army. That is the result that in the past many families in Germany raise children in an authoritarian style that demanded strict obedience. They seem to have created a «fertile ground» for the coming to power of Hitler.